Carolyn Rutherford

Carolyn Lacy Rutherford (Lacy)

1946 - 2019
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Carolyn Lacy Rutherford of Havre de Grace, MD passed away surrounded by love on February 8, 2019 at the Johns Hopkins Bayview Medical Center. She was 72 years old. Mrs. Rutherford was born in Lynchburg, VA to the late John J. and Jessie Mae (Sellers) Lacy, Sr. She was the loving wife of 41 years to the late Colonel Wilson “Bill” Roller Rutherford III and a most devoted mother and grandmother.

Lacy spent 27 years serving her country beside her husband, as she tirelessly cared for the families of the soldiers and volunteered with multiple military charities at home and while living overseas. When they retired to Havre de Grace, she developed her own successful career in real estate; all while caring for the slowly declining health of her husband and finding time to support her children as they developed their own careers.

In more recent years, she was a member of Questors historic preservation and restoration club and a volunteer at the Susquehanna Lock House. She was an avid reader, demonstrated by the enjoyment she found in her Book Club and volunteer work at the Havre de Grace library. Lacy loved to travel and touched so many lives in her daughter’s community and the duty stations where her son has served the last 26 years, visiting both often. However, her most important and favorite role was as a hopelessly devoted grandmother.

These words provide a small glimpse into the woman that Lacy was, but they can barely reflect her amazing depth of character. There is an anonymous quotation which attempts: “That’s the thing about inner beauty: unlike physical beauty, which grabs the spotlight on itself, inner beauty shines on everyone, catching them, holding them in its embrace, making them more beautiful.” Lacy had a unique ability to make those around her shine. She loved her family fiercely and her friends devotedly, and always put them first.

She is survived by her siblings John Joseph Lacy, Jr. (Carolyn) of Waynesboro, VA and Betty Jean Thompson (F. Christian) of Ponte Vedra, FL; her son, Colonel Wilson “Trey” Roller Rutherford IV (Caitlin) of Fort Hood, TX and her daughter, Megan McCarron Rutherford (David Basham) of Seattle, WA; and her beloved grandchildren Wilson Roller Rutherford V, Philip “Duncan” Rutherford and Evelyn Rose Basham.

A memorial service celebrating Lacy’s life will be held on March 16 at the Bulle Rock Community Club (1200 Bulle Rock Parkway, Havre de Grace, MD) from 2:00-4:00pm.

A private memorial service and burial will follow at Arlington National Cemetery, Arlington, VA at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, friends and family may make contributions to the Fisher House Foundation ( supporting military, veterans and their families.

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  • Service

    Saturday, March 16th, 2019 | 2:00pm
    Saturday, March 16th, 2019 2:00pm
    Bulle Rock Community Club
    1200 Bulle Rock Parkway
    HAVRE DE GRACE, MD 21078
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    Services will be held from 2-4 PM
  • Interment

    Arlington National Cemetery
    Arlington National Cemetery
    ARLINGTON, VA 22211
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    Dates will be updated once scheduling has been finalized.


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Denise Carnaggio

Posted at 05:11pm
I have fond memories knowing Lacy and Bill Rutherford during my years at the Harford County Office of Economic Development...both when Bill was the Garrison Commander, Colonel Rutherford, and later when he worked for our office. Lacy was one of the kindest people we knew who would often visit us. She gave so much to the people around her and you knew Bill and Lacy both cared about the Harford County and APG communities.
To their children....I was blessed to have known your Mom and Dad. Thinking of you and hope that the fond memories of your Mom give you peace in the days and months ahead.
Denise Carnaggio

mark lacy

Posted at 12:16pm
As one of her nephews I had the great pleasure of knowing Aunt Carolyn my whole life; and what a sweet lady she was. Always laughing, always smiling, and always dressed up (she had great style!) Though her loss is tragic in its finality, she lived many decades to the fullest, and didn't exactly waste time. She married well, raised two great kids, was a part of her grandchildrens' lives, had many friends and hobbies, and was always on the go. If I live past 70 and do it half as well as she did, I'll consider myself to have lived a full, enriched, satisfying life. Her departure is sad, but what a way to end the party. She did it all, and there should be no regret. From us to you, until we meet again, good work, now go with God. Love Mark L

Pat Humphries

Posted at 12:43pm
I worked with you several years ago at Coldwell Banker. Always had fun with you around. Enjoyed all our jokes and fun with parties. You were a wonderful person and will surely be missed by many

Annie McLhinney-Cochran

Posted at 09:22am
Green Street will be less Green without you. We will miss your beautiful smile and friendly hellos. We will never forget our last Halloween together. You were one-of-a-kind special. We are all so sad. Until we meet again.

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